the 30-day challenge to activate your most magnetic, joyful, loved self (no partner required).
i'm ready to start living →you've been doing everything right.
you show up for your friends. you work hard to build a career. you take care of your mental and your physical health.
and yet, there's still this low hum underneath it all. it's a nagging sense that your real life starts later. when your person shows up. when you're finally in love.
so, you half-live. you don't put art on the walls. you don't book the solo trip. you keep one part of yourself in the waiting room, eyes on the door.
the worst part is that you KNOW BETTER.
but, sometimes, you still can't help it.
you could explain your patterns better than your therapist could. knowing them just hasn't changed them.
what you need is a SHIFT.
you've deleted and redownloaded hinge four times this year. every time, it feels worse.
you've done ten years of therapy. you could teach a class on your attachment style. but every time you finally like someone, you panic and come on too strong.
you've watched almost every friend get engaged. you planned two of the bachelorettes. you smiled through every toast, and cried in the uber home.
so you've decided the problem must be you. not enough effort. not enough healing. maybe just not meant for it.
but look at what you've actually tried.
you've tried fixing it from the outside. you've tried understanding it from the inside. and the whole time, you've been running on the same quiet equation:
partnered = real life. single = waiting.
you've never once tried living as if it weren't true.
that's the single shift.
you wake up in a life that feels like the single era you've seen in movies — maybe you flirt with your barista, or you spend saturdays at brunch with other single friends.
the story in your head has changed from "why hasn't it happened for me" to "look how f***ing cool my life is."
you have a plan for the hard days — the wedding invite, the unanswered text, the "seeing anyone?" at dinner. you know how to pause, come back into your body, and comfort yourself before you spiral.
you know exactly who you are outside of a relationship status. you know your values, you know what you want, and your saturdays finally feel like yours. you just feel lighter.
and here's the wildest part: you're not gritting your teeth through any of it. you're actually having fun.
this is not about giving up on love. it's about becoming so at home in your own life that love gets to be a want, not a life vest to save you from drowning.
your hot, cool, single era doesn't start when someone picks you. it starts right the f*** now.
a short video lesson every weekday morning. 5–25 minutes of real practice. a different skill every day — take what resonates, leave the rest.
write a letter from your future self. name the story that's kept you waiting, and grieve what it took — the kind of loss nobody lets single women grieve. then choose a new story you can actually stand behind, and design your dream (satur)day. goodbye, saturday scaries.
your body isn't a project to finish before love arrives. learn the PAUSE framework for self-soothing when you're spiraling, reconnect with hunger, desire, and pleasure, notice how your body shows up around other people, and find an embodiment practice you'll actually do.
Envy Alchemy turns the stomach-drop scroll into a map of what you want. then you meet your Shifted Self — who she is, how she dresses, how she spends a saturday — and start bringing her into your real life, one action, feeling, vision, and belief at a time.
find your real values (not your "shoulds"), close the gap between them and your days, and put them into action. then craft your dream partner list, decide how you'll come home to yourself while you date, and open the letter you wrote on day one.
i'm a psychologist, and i was single foreverrr (for nearly 8 years, to be exact).
and for the first 6 and a half of those years, i was kind of bitter. and lonely. and miserable.
we're talking decidedly NOT cute movie-montage single.
i was the kind where i had done ALL the work, read every possible book, and cheered on all my friends through the beginnings (and middles) of their love stories.
and i was shrouded in shame about my singleness.
i truly believed i was defective.
and i harbored a deep, secret fear that i would never, ever find love. even though love is all i had ever wanted.
eventually, i got fed up.
i decided to combine my clinical expertise, my obsession with woo and spirituality, and my own hard-won wisdom to change my own story — and rewrite my narrative about my singleness and myself in the process.
everything in this challenge is what actually moved the needle for me and for the women i've dedicated my career to helping.
inside the challenge, i'll walk you, baby step-by-baby step, through using real psychology (belief rewriting, emotion regulation, and behavior change) combined with a healthy dose of woo and spirituality to practice new ways of feeling, seeing, and believing in the love that already exists in your life, simply because you exist.
no toxic positivity. no "just love yourself!" no pretending the ache isn't real.
the ache is real. and so is the life you can build while it visits.
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everything included · every lesson, yours to keep · sunday meditations · workbook · community · 4 live Q&A calls
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i totally get it, and we've all been there. my personal belief is that every time we try, even if we don't feel like we've made progress, we've woven a little bit more of our own self-healing tapestry. also, i designed the single shift challenge with the struggles of people who are well-versed in self-help in mind, so i made a few key adjustments. first, most self-help fails for one reason: it skips the grief and jumps straight to positivity, so the new belief has nowhere to root. we do this in the right order — name, grieve, choose, practice. second, the single shift challenge is designed to outrun any perfectionistic tendencies that have kept you stuck in the past. this is done first, by making small, actionable practices the foundation of the course, and second, by regularly habit-stacking psychological practices that are meant to engender real change, not just quick fixes. every day asks for one small action, not a personality transplant.
a short video lesson plus 5–25 minutes of practice a day, monday through friday. on sundays there's a guided meditation, should you wish to use it. this is designed for a full life, not a retreat. (the weekly live Q&A call is on top of that — come whenever you want coaching.)
not even a little. wanting love is beautiful — your longing is proof of how much love you're capable of, not proof something's wrong with you. this challenge just refuses to let your life wait for it. (in week 4 we turn outward: you'll craft your dream partner list from your own values and desires, and decide how you'll come home to yourself while you date. you'll just be doing it from a full life instead of an empty waiting room.)
then you pick up where you left off. the lessons are yours to keep — there's no falling off the wagon, only coming back. coming back is literally one of the lessons.
come when you can, catch up when you can't. every call is recorded and available for playback, so you never actually miss one — you just watch it later, on your own time.
no. the single shift 30-day challenge, and all selfworkaholic tools, are meant to provide education, hope, and inspiration for your experience, created by a psychologist. it is not treatment, diagnosis, or a therapeutic relationship, and it's not a substitute for working with your own therapist. (full details in the footer.)
we all start together on monday, october 26. lessons land in your inbox each weekday morning, and our first live call is that same night.
the art you haven't hung. the solo trip you haven't booked. the version of you that you're saving for when someone's there to see her.
what if it's time to start decorating?
thirty days. one small, brave action at a time.
with love 🌀 xo, rose
let's shift →